I think India is the one country where drama keeps the Indians alive. I am convinced they can not breathe without drama even though they try doing their absolute best avoiding it. They haven’t realised that by trying to avoid drama they are creating it.
One day, my friend Karen and I wanted to go to Rishikesh. We were at our usual place having breakfast when we heard one of the owner saying something about going to the market. So we asked him if we could tag along. Raiding three on a scooter is neither unusual nor undoable so there was nothing to stop us really. And he didn’t seem to mind either since he said yes, let’s go in 20 minutes, he said. Karen and I waited for him to give us a signal on when to leave. And we waited. 40 minutes passed and I decided to ask one of his colleagues since we hadn’t seen in a while. Oh, he left for the market with his friend, they told us.
It turned out he had planned to go to the market with his friend. Since Indians can’t say No, he said Yes and then ran and hid. He told us we would go in 20 minutes because by then he would be gone and wouldn’t have to deal with any consequences. By now, and after discussing this matter with Indian friends, I have learned that it is tabu to ever bring this incident up ever.
The whole Indian society is flooded with drama. Movies, advertisements, news, political debates. Everything is coated with drama. More or less.
My country is well known for being neutral, not causing drama if avoidable and political correctness was probably invented there. I don’t always sympathise with the way things are done in my country but I guess that is needed in order to evolve. One of the things I love about my country is that people try to listen to each other’s point of view. Debating. It’s like watching two players on a tennis court. The ball goes back and forth between the two players. I love debating when the ones involved actually listen to each other, reflecting upon what has been said before responding.
I am not easily shocked or scared, but one day I happened to see one of these political debates on Indian national tv and I was both shocked and a lot of question marks were straightened out. I have seen everyday life in India and how drama is created. How people can get into big fights because everyone wants to be first. Be it on the road or buying a bus ticket. The arguments are loud, the language is foul and the body language almost abusive. The day I say the political debate I witnessed the same behaviour. Political representatives for the parties shouting, not listening to each other and overall creating more chaos, confusion and drama than anything else.
Same thing with love in India. The dramatic scenes in movies and music videos are very much about extremely handsome masculine men being in charge and on top of things while women are portrayed as extremely beautiful feminine and submissive. And when these men and women interact with each other there is always this coat of drama.
Considering the amount of drama happening in India, one could easily write a trilogy on the matter. I guess this is one of the things I love about travelling. The nuances, the specific colours and tastes in each country one will never know about unless taking the time to experience them.